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What Not to Do During a Divorce

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The divorce process is complicated, to say the least. Tensions are high and the future is uncertain, sometimes leading to impulsive and poor decisions. Given the challenges that come with divorce, it’s understandable for one to make a mistake. By being prepared beforehand with our list of what to avoid during a divorce, you’ll lessen the chance of making a critical mistake.

1. Do not lie to your attorney

In order to best help you and achieve the best possible outcome, your attorney will need to know everything about you and your case. We’ve seen people try to conceal assets or hide substance abuse, but this will only hurt you in the long run.

2. Do not involve your children

Divorces are hard enough for children, involving them in the conflict as a way to punish your spouse can negatively affect your relationship with them. Avoid discussing the case or bad-mouthing your spouse to them. What you should do is assure them that you still love them and you will continue to be there for them.

3. Do not begin a new relationship

Try to avoid jumping into a new romantic relationship. Even though you and your partner have decided to end your marriage, bringing someone else into the picture can become an issue during the divorce process.

4. Do not neglect your finances

Before filing for divorce, you should set aside money for the expenses that come with the process. On top of attorney fees, you may need to consider a new living arrangement and have less household income than you are used to. Along with this, you should begin gathering essential documents, including tax returns, bank statements, wills, and property deeds. You will need these records so that you and your spouse’s attorney can divide your property.

5. Do not let your emotions take over

Divorces are highly emotional but you don’t want to let it get to the point where it affects your divorce proceeding or outcome. Airing out your dirty laundry on social media or self-medicating with drugs and alcohol can hurt your visitation rights or more. Favoring cooperation with your spouse will pay off and help you focus on reaching a compromise.

If you are filing for divorce, our Orange County divorce lawyer at the Gill Law Group can help you through every step of the process. Contact us at (949) 681-9952 to begin your free virtual consultation today.